I want to register as an Irish citizen. My grandmother was Irish and I have most of the documents I need for the application, but my mother, from whom I am estranged, wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t let me have a copy of her passport. She was violent and abusive when I was a child, and her abusive attitude continued into adulthood. I cut ties because it is damaging to my mental health to be around her. When I got in touch and politely asked if I could have a notarised copy, which I would pay for, she refused. She gets satisfaction in Ã¢â‚¬Å“punishingÃ¢â‚¬Â me and I know she will draw this out as long as she can. I donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t know what to do. I want to have as little contact with her as possible.
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