While happy people generally don’t let the behavior of others get under their skin, when something does upset them, they will express it instead of stewing in silence. That’s true when it comes to coworkers, friends, and romantic partners.
As family and relationship psychotherapist Fran Walfish, author of The Self-Aware Parent, emphasizes, we will naturally be annoyed with other people now and then. The important thing is to be honest about our frustrations, which can mean the difference between a happy person and one who quietly holds in their misery. Ideally, she says, “there aren’t any lingering issues that haven’t been resolved.”